Owning a business is much like growing a family. You first start with a small nucleus with lots of hope. As time grows, you add members to your family and complexity gets higher and higher. During this time your relationship with each other changes. If you're fortunate, the relationship grows deeper and more meaningful.

The same happens in your business. You start with an idea, find some Customers to purchase the goods and services you offer and add staff to help you deliver those products your Customers want to purchase. As the business grows and prospers, it becomes more complicated with the constant need to continue changing your relationship with your business to make it successful.

John Aardvark had just turned fifty years old. He had started and built a very successful business that did $5,000,000 in sales and had thirty employees. His children were just finishing college and he was thinking about the next stage in his life as well as his business. John decided to engage a specialist in business relationship planning.

The first thing John learned was that he had in fact been transitioning his business and his life from the time he first started twenty five years ago. When he first started in business, he provided the Customer service, sales, accounting and operations support that his company needed.

He realized that for him to get his business started, he needed to be everything to everyone. However, that phase of his business only lasted for about three months before he hired his first employee. When he hired his first employee, the first transition was made in his business. He now not only had to keep track of himself, but he also had to start keeping track of others and their work.

John's consultant talked with him about the different roles that he could play in his business. The consultant used a sports metaphor for describing the different roles – player, coach, general manager and owner. John needed to learn which roles he played at different times in his development and what roles he needed to play today.

The consultant told John that he could probably fill two roles well, if pushed three roles, but it would be literally impossible for him to fulfill all the roles well. John realized that when he first started his company, almost all of his time was spent on doing player roles. He had to do the activities that made his business work. He had almost no time for planning an appropriate strategy or working on issues that owners of teams would concentrate on.

After John hired his first employee, he needed to start thinking like a coach as well as a player. He needed to help the people he hired to learn the skills that would make them successful in servicing his Client base. However, he had a problem. He was so busy making sure the work got done, that he never made enough time to properly teach the fundamentals of serving his Customers to the first people he hired.

As John was thinking back to his second year in business he realized he made another transition where he consciously spent more time thinking about how he could get others to service his Customers well. He started to spend more time teaching and less time doing.

John found this transition very frustrating. He knew that he could do almost everything better and faster than the first people he hired. But, there was just too much work to be done for him to do all the direct work himself. So, he had to learn the skills of imparting his knowledge to the people who worked for him, which is how John saw his employees during the first few years of running his company.

With his consultant's help, John put together a personal business history where he tracked the roles he was playing. They found that John had a very difficult time letting go and moving on. At the same time, John was feeling a little burned out and wasn't having nearly as much fun working over the last few years. In fact, when John was examining his roles, he found that he spent most of this time still in the role of player, then as a coach and finally as a general manager.

The problem John had was he was spending no time as an owner. He made a great living, but if he was hit by a truck and couldn't work for a period of months, it would be doubtful if the business could survive.

As with all sports teams, we have role players and stars. Many times, entrepreneurs through just plan perseverance become starts in different parts of their business. If it's doing an activity where they have a unique ability, they will gain energy from these activities. However, if it's from an activity they forced themselves to be good at, they will find those activities drain energy and help them feel like they've become burned out.

John was still spending most of his time filling the role of player. He was getting tired and as his consultant reminded him, he was spending most of time working in his business and not on his business.

The coaching that John was doing could be called skill coaching. He wasn't working on a game plan for his business; he was helping people learn specific skills. Even as a coach, John was working in his business.

The two roles that John was not filling were the two important roles in his business. Although John was making good money, it was all dependant on his ability to deliver the goods on a daily basis. He needed to learn general manager and owner skills. This would allow him to move the business to the next level, make it more valuable and provide more options for him in the future.

As a general manager, John would think about having the right people in the right position doing the correct things. As an owner, John would think about what his Customers really wanted and track whether the business enterprise was providing him with a return that was reasonable and expected as a financial asset.

It was time for John to once again make new transitions. He had developed a company that provided him a great job. Unfortunately, John could not walk away from the business and be financially independent. He found that he would need about ten years of saving using different strategies for this to happen. So, he needed to transition how he spent his time so he could have more fun, improve his financial returns and improve his options for the future.

The way John's company was running, he thought he would only have one option. That would be to sell the company to someone. Although, he would like to have his kids take over, he knew he didn't want to trust his financial future to the decisions of his children.

John's consultant urged him to start planning to spend twenty percent of his time working as a general manager. When John asked about spending time as an owner, the consultant told John that this would happen in two years if all went well. But, for the time being, he needed to spend his time getting the right people in the right position doing correct activities.

If John was able to do this, he would then be able to give up his player role and then concentrate on being the head coach, general manager and then start having a little time to act as an owner. John's first job was to replace himself as the head sales person for the company. He was the start in this role, but he also was spending over fifty percent of his time in this role.

Over the next year John was able to successfully institute a hiring process that allowed him to replace himself as star sales person. He now had enough time to work on having the company doing the right things and having the right people in the correct slots. John was now able to spend over forty percent of his time as general manager and fifty percent of his time as coach.

John's consultant next taught him how to understand the key metrics in his company. He needed to start measuring areas of his company that drove not only the financial performance, but the Customer satisfaction levels as well. John realized that this was the first time in his twenty seven years of running his business that he was actually acting like the owner of the company.

He didn't have to be out in the field doing the actual work. He could work with his supervisors who were now the coaches of his people and monitor the performance through key metrics and Customer visits. Instead of John having to work sixty hours per week, just getting the job done. He now could work twenty hours per week making sure the right things were getting done. That left him all of the other time to concentrate on making sure his company filled the needs of his Customers and they were doing the right thing at the right time.

Four years have now gone by. John realized that if something serious happened to him, he could probably be out of the business for a good six months to a year and the business would be in good shape. He had transitioned how he spent his time again. Over ninety percent of John's time was now spent on owners issues – making sure his Customers were served properly with services they wanted to purchase at margins that were appropriate. John also found that a new option had been generated for his business over the last four years:

Instead of liquidating his business or selling it to his managers, children or a third party he had changed his relationship to his business.

The business would now run without him. He had a choice whether it was the right thing for him to sell or keep his business. John's long-term dream had always been to have his children take over the business. His daughter and son were now working in the business and doing well. John had taken actions to provide for his financial security that did not include the business. So, he now felt that he had many more options than when he started on this journey five years ago.

John and his consultant had taken the journey of transitions. In the last five years John had made transitions to go from player, coach, general manager and finally as owner. As John went through these various transitions, his options increased and the level of enjoyment and satisfaction from running his business continually increased.

You too can have this joy.